From Vision Forum’s “Baby Conference”
*This is meant to whet your appetite, and to highlight some things that stood out to me, but not to be a complete summary of the session. If you have questions about the context of something I quote, please feel free to ask in the comments!*
This session was a panel discussion, with Mr. Phillips asking questions. The panel included the Valentis, Bodkins and my personal favorite, the Chanceys. (I know, it’s not nice to play favorites…)
Some of my notes:
One of the men on the panel had a wonderful father who would take him out of school to do things like hunt ducks with him. After the son was given a hard time for missing school (again) his father told the teachers, “Young men do not learn to be men by being with women, but by being with their fathers and other men.” and that was the end of that.
Along the same lines, his wife said that the main method of education is involvement.
The Chancey family is anti-school, but not anti-education because, according to Mr. Chancey, school is the best factory to prevent education from taking place.
In C S Lewis’ book, The Magician’s Nephew, two children find themselves in a dead world, dead because the Deplorable Word was spoken by its queen. By speaking it, she wiped out everything but herself. Mr. Chancey believes that this Deplorable Word is “me”.
Design the house so everyone is forced to be together. There are great benefits to this such as the promotion of conflict resolution, unselfishness, etc.
“There’s nothing wrong with hard work.” –Jennie Chancey
She taught her 7-year-old sister to clean the bathroom. The creative things she did to motivate her sister to take over the job including making things pretty (apron, organized supplies, etc.) and rewarding a job well done with a certificate of completion!
The book of Malachi speaks of testing God to see if He will do what He said He would. This is not the same as tempting Him, like speeding without a seatbelt on. It is simply obeying, even when it is hard and trusting that He will provide as promised.
Mrs. Chancey pointed out that first God promises to bless the womb, then the fields. Mr. Chancey likened in to deferred gratification in investing – you get so much blessing if you do things in God’s order. Mr. Bodkin’s 15-year-old was such an asset monetarily to the family that he was advised to buy him life insurance.
Raising a large family is not easy or perfect, it involves a lot of responsibility and both laughter and tears, but in the end, the rewards are worth it!